No parent wants to do anything intentionally that could harm their child. But unfortunately, you must sometimes make decisions that lead to this, anyway. When you are going through a divorce, you will face this scenario when the time comes to tell your child about it.
Naturally, you want to look for ways that you can mitigate the damage. But will your timing of the discussion have any potential impact?
Give children time they need
Psychology Today discusses ways to drop the news about divorce to your child. There is no specific timeline you must follow when you are handling divorce. But experts believe you should break the news sooner rather than later.
The main reason is that children need time to process this information. Many parents mistakenly think that their child needs more time enjoying a “normal” life, without having to worry about divorce. But this is not the case. They need to come to terms with the fact that there is a big change in their future, and they need time and space to do this.
Plan out the conversation
At the same time, you should not rush into a decision. You need to talk things through with your co-parent first. Get on the same page. Decide what information you will share. Try to predict the questions you may have to field. Never talk to your child one-on-one, as it can sew mistrust and disrupt the potential to work together.
Above all, remind your child that you both love them and will support them no matter what the future looks like. In the end, this is one of the biggest helps.